Posted in Love

Prioritizing Love in 2024

In the midst of setting the usual New Year’s resolutions – diet, exercise, and spending less time online – there’s one goal that promises not just commitment, but genuine enjoyment: spending quality time with your spouse or partner in 2024.

Our lives are busier than ever, consumed by work, job searches, shuttling kids to various activities, and the demands of daily life. It’s easy to get caught up in the whirlwind of responsibilities, often neglecting the foundation of our support system – our relationships.

Putting conscious effort into spending more time with your partner can be a game-changer. Amidst the chaos, taking a moment to hold their hand signifies a simple yet powerful act of connection. It’s a reminder that amidst the hustle, the heart of your life lies in the bond you share.

Here are six ways to spend quality time with your partner and foster a thriving relationship:

  1. Weekly Date Nights: Set aside dedicated time each week for a date night. Whether it’s a cozy dinner at home, a movie night, or a spontaneous adventure, prioritizing this time enhances intimacy.
  2. Technology-Free Time: Create windows where both of you disconnect from devices. This allows for undivided attention, fostering deeper conversations and strengthening emotional bonds.
  3. Shared Hobbies: Identify activities you both enjoy and make time for them together. Whether it’s cooking, hiking, or even learning something new, shared interests deepen your connection.
  4. Express Gratitude: Regularly express appreciation for each other. Small gestures of gratitude, like a heartfelt compliment or a thoughtful note, contribute to a positive and affirming relationship.
  5. Travel Together: Plan a getaway, even if it’s just a short weekend trip. Exploring new places creates lasting memories and provides an opportunity to reconnect away from the routines of daily life.
  6. Volunteer as a Couple: Giving back to the community as a team is not only fulfilling but also strengthens your bond. Find a cause that resonates with both of you and contribute your time together.

Bible Verse: Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 (NIV)
“Two are better than one because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up.”

In essence, this verse emphasizes the power of unity and mutual support, underscoring the importance of having a partner by your

Posted in Blessed, Blogging, Faith, Uncategorized

New Beginnings

In 2 Corinthians 5:14-21, the message is clear: “If anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation.” As we enter the end of the first week of the New Year, people often make resolutions to change, but true new beginnings come only from God. Unlike human efforts, God can fundamentally transform us through the work of Jesus Christ on the cross.

To experience a genuine new beginning, we must recognize three areas where God might be calling us to change: Personally, Communally, and Missionally.

  1. Personally: Our vision for our lives should align with God’s plan – conformity to the image of Christ. This involves growing in maturity, experiencing God’s grace, and putting on the character of Christ. Let’s reflect and pray, asking God to reveal how we can conform to Jesus in the coming year.
  2. Communally: As a church community, we’re challenged to manifest God’s presence by growing in unity, love, and service. This includes intentional hospitality, encouraging conversations, discipleship, and addressing the needs within our community. Let’s seek God’s guidance on how we can mature spiritually and practically as a church.
  3. Missionally: God calls us to reach out to those outside His kingdom with love, grace, and truth. We need to see people as Jesus does – sheep without a shepherd. Our hope in the Gospel should renew our perspective on our city, state, and world. Let’s pray for God to touch our hearts and show us how to engage our city with the transformative power of the Gospel.

Remember all things are possible with God. By continually beholding the Lord in His word, we can be transformed into His likeness. As we commit ourselves to this, we’ll discern God’s calling for our lives personally, communally, and missionally.

Posted in Faith, Forgiveness, Life, Love, New Year, Peace

Embracing Positivity in the New Year: A Journey of Forgiveness and Love

As the new year dawns upon us, I find myself reflecting on the transformative power of forgiveness, love, and understanding. It’s not just a gift we bestow upon others; it’s a profound gift we give ourselves, lightening our spirits and keeping us aligned with the positive energy that emanates from God.

Entering the new year with a heart full of forgiveness is an act of divine grace. In the Bible, we are reminded that to receive forgiveness, we must extend it to others. “For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you.” (Matthew 6:14) This timeless truth emphasizes the reciprocity of forgiveness—our ability to receive it hinges on our willingness to grant it.

In the tapestry of life, forgiveness is the thread that weaves love and understanding into our relationships. The act of forgiving others is not merely a gesture of bidding goodbye to resentment; it’s a way of releasing the negative vibes that can weigh us down. As we embrace forgiveness, we free ourselves from the shackles of bitterness, creating space for love and positivity to flourish.

A quote that resonates with the essence of stepping into the new year with a positive mindset is, “Tomorrow is the first blank page of a 365-page book. Write a good one.” (Brad Paisley) Each day offers an opportunity for a new beginning, a chance to let go of past grievances and embrace a brighter, more positive future.

So, as we stand at the threshold of the new year, let’s commit to forgiveness, love, and understanding. In doing so, we not only gift others the grace of our forgiveness but also bestow upon ourselves the freedom to live in harmony with the divine positivity that surrounds us. May the coming year be a tapestry woven with threads of love, understanding, and the transformative power of forgiveness.

Posted in Kwanzaa

Happy Kwanzaa

Kwanzaa is a week-long celebration starting on December 26th and ending on January 1st. It honors African heritage and cultural values. The holiday was created in 1966 by Dr. Maulana Karenga and is observed mainly in the United States.

Each day of Kwanzaa focuses on a specific principle, known as the Nguzo Saba, which are seven guiding values: Umoja (unity), Kujichagulia (self-determination), Ujima (collective work and responsibility), Ujamaa (cooperative economics), Nia (purpose), Kuumba (creativity), and Imani (faith). These principles are represented by lighting seven candles in a kinara, a traditional candleholder.

Celebrants also decorate their homes with African art, wear traditional clothing, and exchange educational and cultural gifts. Kwanzaa encourages reflection on the past, present, and future, fostering unity and community building.

Kwanzaa is a meaningful celebration that promotes unity, cultural pride, and the application of positive values in daily life. It lasts for seven days, offering a unique opportunity to reflect on one’s heritage and contribute to the well-being of the community.

“Creator of all, on this day of Kwanzaa, we gather in unity to honor our heritage and celebrate the principles that guide us. Grant us the strength to uphold Umoja, fostering unity among our people. May Kujichagulia empower us to determine our destiny with purpose and pride. Let Ujima inspire collective responsibility, working together for the greater good.

Bless our efforts in Ujamaa, promoting cooperative economics and shared prosperity. Guide us in pursuing Nia, fulfilling our purpose with dedication. Infuse our endeavors with Kuumba, sparking creativity that enriches our lives and community. Finally, instill in us Imani, a steadfast faith that propels us toward a brighter future.

As we light the candles of the kinara, may their glow symbolize the illumination of these principles in our hearts and homes. Amen.”

Posted in Blessed, Christmas

Joseph’s Silent Strength: A Perspective on the Birth of Jesus

The night that changed the world

Advent is a unique time of year when the Church remembers the gifts Christ brought to all of creation on that first Christmas. That moment changed everything, and it truly was a holy night.

The story of the birth of Jesus is undoubtedly one of the most beautiful narratives ever told. Often, the focus is on Mary, the shepherds, and the Magi, (The biblical Magi —also known as the Three Wise Men, Three Kings, and the Three Magi—were distinguished foreigners in the Gospel of Matthew and Christian tradition. They are said to have visited Jesus after his birth, bearing gifts of gold, frankincense, and myrrh)

but there’s another crucial character in this divine drama – Joseph. Imagine the myriad of emotions he must have experienced throughout this extraordinary journey.

In Matthew 1:18-25, we catch a glimpse of Joseph’s side of the story. A good and godly man, Joseph faced a dilemma when he discovered Mary’s unexpected pregnancy. Considering a quiet divorce, he must have been torn between his love for Mary and the societal expectations of the time.

Yet, Joseph’s character shines through when an angel of the Lord appears to him in a dream. This divine intervention transforms his confusion into understanding and obedience. In a world quick to judge, Joseph’s silent strength and obedience to God’s plan demonstrate an extraordinary level of faith and humility.

Consider the weight on Joseph’s shoulders – accepting a miraculous conception, embracing Mary and the imminent role of being Jesus’ earthly father. A carpenter by trade, Joseph not only provided for his family but also played a pivotal role in shaping the life of the Messiah. He taught Jesus earthly skills, imparted wisdom, and guided Him in the ways of faith.

Joseph’s journey wasn’t without challenges, yet he demonstrated profound understanding and compassion. In a society quick to cast judgment, he chose the path of grace. Can we fathom the depth of Joseph’s love and faithfulness?

Reflecting on Joseph’s perspective challenges us to emulate his qualities – understanding, humility, and obedience to God’s plan. In a world often filled with judgment and condemnation, Joseph’s silent strength speaks volumes.

So, would you be as understanding as Joseph? His story encourages us to extend grace, embrace the unexpected, and trust in the divine plan even when faced with uncertainties. In Joseph’s obedience, we find a lesson that goes beyond his role in the nativity story – a lesson in unwavering faith and the transformative power of understanding.

Posted in Christmas

The True Meaning of Christmas: Reflecting on the King in a Manger and the Essence of the Season

In a humble manger, a king lay to rest, a symbolic beginning to a profound story. Haverstraw, with its own tales to tell, becomes a backdrop to a narrative of grace and sacrifice. The king in the manger, deserving of more than he received, embarked on a journey that transcends material celebrations.

Christmas, often clouded by the allure of gifts and festivities, finds its true purpose in the birth of our Lord Jesus Christ. It’s not merely about the exchange of presents, Santa Claus, or fleeting merriment. The essence lies in recognizing the significance of the divine arrival on this sacred day.

Amidst the commercial clamor, it’s perplexing why some celebrate a holiday rooted in faith without subscribing to its spiritual core. Beyond the superficial trappings of the season, the heartbeat of Christmas resonates in acknowledging the savior’s birth.

The temptation to focus on temporary pleasures or fleeting family perfection should yield to the profound reality that Christmas is a celebration of spiritual renewal. Beyond the tinsel and lights, it’s a call to reflect on our connection with the divine, a reminder of the eternal gift that arrived in the form of a child.

For those seeking salvation, Christmas serves as an invitation to embrace the transformative power of faith. As you embark on the journey of becoming born again, consider the words of Scripture:

  1. John 3:16 – “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life.”
  2. Isaiah 9:6 – “For to us a child is born, to us a son is given, and the government will be on his shoulders. And he will be called Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace.”

The true meaning of Christmas is encapsulated in the profound love and sacrifice embodied by the birth of Jesus. As you navigate this season, remember that salvation is the ultimate gift, and the path to the kingdom of heaven lies in faith and acceptance.

“In the quiet miracle of Christmas, we find the greatest gift of all – the promise of salvation, the hope of eternal life, and the boundless love of our Savior.”

Posted in Blessed, Brave, clean eating, Faith

Christmas Blessings & Miracles

As I stand on the threshold of the holiday season, I am reminded of the incredible power that lies in expecting miracles in our lives, particularly during moments of adversity and challenges. Life, with its twists and turns, often throws unexpected obstacles our way—be it health struggles, personal challenges, or the ups and downs that accompany our journey. Yet, in the face of these difficulties, maintaining a positive outlook becomes not just a choice but a beacon of hope, especially as Christmas approaches, promising the potential for miracles.

It’s easy to become bogged down by the weight of challenges, feeling overwhelmed by the magnitude of life’s trials. However, I’ve come to realize that in those moments of darkness, expecting a miracle can be a transformative mindset. This time of year, with the spirit of Christmas in the air, serves as a poignant reminder of the extraordinary possibilities that lie within the realm of hope.

In the tapestry of belief and positivity, Christmas embodies the essence of miracles. The very story of Christmas, with the miraculous birth of Jesus, emphasizes that extraordinary events can unfold in the most humble and unexpected circumstances. It encourages us to anticipate the miraculous, even in our own lives.

Turning to the timeless wisdom found in the Bible, one verse that resonates deeply with the theme of expecting miracles is Jeremiah 29:11: “For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.” This verse instills a profound sense of assurance that, even in the face of challenges, there is a divine plan at play—one that holds the promise of a hopeful future.

Another scripture that echoes the sentiment of anticipating miracles is Philippians 4:13: “I can do all things through him who strengthens me.” This verse reminds us that, with faith and reliance on a higher power, we can navigate challenges with resilience and openness to the possibility of miraculous outcomes.

In the spirit of cultivating a positive mindset, let’s embrace the day with this quote: “Miracles happen every day; we just need to notice them.” This simple yet powerful reminder encourages us to be mindful of the small wonders that unfold in our lives, paving the way for a greater sense of hope and expectation.

As we approach the holiday season, let’s carry the anticipation of miracles in our hearts. Expecting a Christmas miracle is not just a hopeful sentiment; it’s an invitation for extraordinary possibilities to manifest in our lives. May this season be a testament to the miraculous potential that resides within each day, guiding us through challenges with unwavering hope and positivity.

Posted in Advent, Ministry, teaching

A Fabulous Friday in the Glow of Advent: December 8, 2023


As I bask in the glow of this fabulous Friday, December 8, 2023, I find myself immersed in the enchanting spirit of Advent. We’re joyously navigating our way through the second week, and there’s an air of anticipation that envelops the day. Advent, for those unfamiliar, is a season of preparation and expectation observed by Christians around the world as they eagerly await the celebration of the birth of Jesus Christ.

In this second week of Advent, we focus on the theme of love. It’s a time to reflect on the profound love that God has bestowed upon us through the gift of His Son. As I contemplate the significance of this week, two Christian Bible verses come to mind, each resonating with the essence of love and the anticipation of Christ’s arrival.

  1. 1 Corinthians 13:13 (NIV):
    “And now these three remain: faith, hope, and love. But the greatest of these is love.” This verse from Corinthians beautifully encapsulates the core message of the second week of Advent. Love is the focal point, reminding us that amidst the hustle and bustle of the season, it’s the love we share with one another that truly matters.
  2. 1 John 4:16 (NIV):
    “So we have come to know and to believe the love that God has for us. God is love, and anyone who abides in love abides in God, and God abides in them.” John’s words serve as a poignant reminder that our connection with God is intricately woven through the fabric of love. As we light the second candle on the Advent wreath, let it symbolize the growing warmth of love in our hearts.

And now, a quote to complement the essence of this second week:

“Love is not just something we feel. It is something we do.” – David Wilkerson

As we immerse ourselves in the activities and festivities of this fabulous Friday, let’s make a conscious effort to embody the love that defines the season. Whether it’s through acts of kindness, expressions of gratitude, or simply spending quality time with loved ones, let the spirit of love permeate every aspect of our day.

May this Friday be filled with joy, love, and a sense of anticipation as we continue our journey through the beautiful season of Advent.

Posted in Blessed, Blogging, Family, Uncategorized

Cherishing the Blessing of a Good Husband: A Personal Reflection


Hello everyone,

I wanted to take a moment to share my thoughts, particularly with all the wonderful women out there who, like me, are fortunate to have an amazing husband, partner, or significant other. This is my second chance at love, and I feel truly blessed to have found someone special. Despite being an ordained minister, I’m only human, and life’s stresses can sometimes take their toll.

There are moments when I, too, falter—times when frustration and impatience and yes even anger at a specific situation has crept in. Yet, I am grateful to have a Christian husband by my side, a man who embodies qualities of patience and kindness, softer spoken, not loud, mean or arrogant. It’s a reminder that even those of us who strive to spread love and understanding can stumble.

I want to emphasize the importance of taking a pause in our busy lives to truly appreciate the good people around us, especially a supportive partner. In my case, it’s a husband who stands by me with unwavering patience and kindness. It’s easy to get caught up in the whirlwind of life, but moments of reflection help us recognize the love and support we’re surrounded by.

Let’s make a conscious effort to cherish those who bring positivity into our lives. Whether it’s a husband, boyfriend, significant other, or partner, they contribute to our well-being in ways both big and small. Today, I encourage you all to take a moment to express gratitude and love for the wonderful individuals who make our journeys richer.

He makes cookies with me and makes a great birthday cake.

He works hard most of the time too hard.

Growing old with your best friend and life partner is a journey that unveils the true beauty of companionship. There’s something profoundly special about finding that person who not only understands you but embraces you—flaws and all. My heart swells with gratitude as I reflect on the incredible bond I share with my husband.

In the tapestry of life, the threads of our connection have woven a story of acceptance and love. There’s a unique joy in realizing that someone sees you, truly sees you, and loves you for everything you are. The quirks, imperfections, and idiosyncrasies become endearing aspects of a shared history.

To have a partner who not only tolerates but celebrates your uniqueness is a rare and beautiful gift. It’s the comfort of being yourself without fear of judgment—a sanctuary of love where both strengths and weaknesses are acknowledged and cherished.

As the years pass, this journey of growing old together becomes a testament to the strength of our connection. We navigate the highs and lows hand in hand, finding solace in the familiarity of each other’s presence. There’s a certain magic in having a front-row seat to witness the evolution of a relationship, deepening with time like a fine wine.

My husband is amazing

In moments of joy and in times of challenge, my husband stands by my side, and I by his. The shared laughter and the shared tears become the mortar that fortifies the foundation of our companionship. It’s a partnership built on understanding, respect, and unwavering support.

So, here’s to growing old with the one who knows the melody of your heart. Here’s to the quiet moments and the shared adventures. And most importantly, here’s to accepting and embracing each other—flaws and all. I am immensely grateful for the gift of a lifelong companion, for a journey that continues to unfold, and for a love that only deepens with the passage of time.

Wishing everyone a day filled with appreciation and warmth.

Deb

P/s

Love you Tom