As I stand on the threshold of a new year, I reflect on the transformative power of forgiveness. This year, let’s embark on a journey to lighten our hearts by extending forgiveness to ourselves, to those who have hurt us, and by seeking forgiveness from those we’ve wronged.
Forgiving oneself is a profound act of self-love. Accept that mistakes are inevitable, and through each one, we gain wisdom and strength. Try your best, learn from each misstep, and remember, there’s always tomorrow. As I look back on my tumultuous relationship with my late mother, I grappled with guilt but found solace in making amends in my 30s. Despite the moments of regret, I now carry the lessons forward, honoring her memory by striving to be a better person every day. I wasn’t a terrible daughter but there were times I disrespected her that hurt her feelings and that bothers me. Because I was a mouthy teen and abused wife I sometimes yelled at her when I had no right and when she died I would dwell in my negative vs all the happy times and laughs we had.
When forgiving others, discern if the hurt was personal or a reflection of their struggles. Often, it’s the latter—borne out of insecurities or past traumas. Gift them forgiveness, even if they don’t apologize. Partial forgiveness is a start, and with time and commitment, complete forgiveness may follow. I’ve experienced the liberation of forgiving those who once caused me pain—it’s a gift to both parties.
Seeking forgiveness is a humbling process. Be honest, respect their decision, and commit to making amends. Facing rejection was once my greatest challenge, but with age comes the wisdom to admit mistakes promptly. Forgiving those who wronged me was equally liberating—I did it for myself. While some things may seem unforgivable, our capacity for forgiveness is immense if we earnestly try.
I encourage you to forgive everyone who has hurt you, one person at a time, at your own pace. Extend forgiveness to yourself—it’s a gift of peace you deserve. Have the courage to seek forgiveness from others; the effort alone brings a sense of closure. As we step into the new year, may we shed the weight of resentment and embrace the lightness that forgiveness brings—a lighter you, ready to face the world with a heart unburdened.
“Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.” – Colossians 3:13
“But I say to you who hear, Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you.” – Luke 6:27
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