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 The strength of a woman

I seen an image on either TikTok or Instagram. It was a black-and-white photo and so I made my twist on it and I love art so when I seen it , I was very moved by it and so below is my version of the photo in color

This image vividly portrays a mother up to her neck in water, yet with unwavering strength, she holds her child high above the surface— some people thought that the woman was swimming out in the lake to drowned herself and her child, but that was not the case ; she was protecting, caring, and fighting to keep her little one safe amid overwhelming circumstances. It’s a powerful reminder that, despite the chaos and challenges we face—be it overwork, poverty, abuse, addiction, illness, or mental health struggles—we do everything we can for our children.

And there’s usually more to the story than what we see or what we think we see

People often don’t understand why women do what they do because they can’t see the full depth of someone’s reality. They assume, “If I were in her shoes, I’d do differently,” but each of us handles our struggles in our own way. As mothers, we do what’s best with the resources, strength, and knowledge we have. For women living in extreme poverty, working multiple jobs might be their only option to provide stability. Those in abusive relationships might shield their children temporarily by placing them with relatives, even though leaving is complicated—sometimes dangerous—because the threat of harm persists if they attempt to escape.

Women battling addiction or mental health issues may feel overwhelmed and unworthy, choosing to make heartbreaking decisions like giving up their children because they believe they’re not enough or fear they might harm them. Women with chronic pain or fighting life-threatening illnesses like cancer simply do their best to keep moving forward, even when exhaustion and suffering threaten to weigh them down.

We must resist judging these women. Instead, we should lift them up, offer grace, and understand that every woman is doing her best in her circumstances.

Sometimes, giving up a child through adoption is an act of profound love and self-sacrifice, not neglect or failure. You may not see the whole story, but that doesn’t mean you should judge.

Every woman faces struggles—whether in youth, education, relationships, addiction, poverty, illness, or mental health. Life is hard, and nobody’s journey is perfect. Our role isn’t to judge or criticize but to support and uplift one another. When wounds are inflicted by others, or if you disagree with how someone navigates their life, remember that everyone is fighting a battle you may never see.

Women have a unique bond. We should celebrate and nurture our relationships—whether between mothers and sons, mothers and daughters, or among friends—striving to understand and forgive, rather than condemn. I speak from experience, having had my own imperfections and regrets. My mother’s love and sacrifices, though not perfect, shaped who I am today. I wish I had appreciated her more when she was here.

If you’re estranged from a loved one, keep praying, keep loving, and trust that time and patience may heal wounds. We weren’t born to be distant or disconnected from our children and loved ones. It’s our responsibility as women to support each other, to build each other up, and to be the refuge in moments of despair.

This is my interpretation of the photo: a testament to resilience, sacrifice, and the unwavering maternal instinct to protect and nurture, even when life feels like it’s dragging us under. Let’s honor each woman’s journey, extend compassion, and band together in sisterhood—because we are stronger when we lift each other up.

Never underestimate the strength of a woman or mother— we love fiercely and do the best we can with what we have. People may not always see the full picture or understand the trials we face, so it’s unfair to judge. Instead, women should lift each other up with kindness and support, offering a hand, not a harsh word. Just because you would handle a situation differently doesn’t mean what I did was wrong, and vice versa. Let’s show each other grace, kindness, and respect, remembering that we’re all doing our best in the moments we’re given.

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What Truly Makes a Good Marriage

A good marriage isn’t about finding a perfect partner—because no one is perfect. It’s about two imperfect people committed to each other, refusing to give up on each other through sickness, health, wealth, poverty, or any challenge that life throws their way. They don’t allow abuse of any kind especially physical in a relationship. They respect each other.

That’s holiness; that’s sanctity—choosing to love and communicate even in the hardest times, and standing firm together in faith.

When you step into an engagement or marriage, you are doing so before God Himself, declaring that this person is above all others, even above your career or worldly pursuits. But for a marriage to last, God must be the center. Without Him, the union will struggle to survive; with Him, it can thrive. You go to church together.

You cannot disrespect, cheat, or mistreat your fiancé or spouse and expect everlasting love. Forgiveness is essential, but repeated mistakes—especially in areas of addiction, abuse, or disloyalty—are signs that you may be unequally yoked. If your partner struggles with gambling, drinking, drugs, or unhealthy behaviors, and they aren’t seeking change, it’s wise to pause before making lifelong commitments.

If you’re a believer, dating someone who does not share your Christian values or belief in Christ , it may lead to difficulties in your marriage. Unequally yoked couples often face serious challenges because their foundational principles are different.They don’t share the same reverence for God, they may think they are above God. But many things in their life may happen to them that is their wake up call and they refuse to see the signs.

Scriptures to Guide Your Heart:

  • 2 Corinthians 6:14
    “Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?”
  • Ephesians 5:25
    “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.”

Marriage is a lifelong journey built on Christ’s love, mutual respect, honesty, and faithfulness. Choose wisely, keep God at the center, and remember, true holiness is in loving each other as Christ loves us.

So if you have someone you don’t want to lose treat the right.

If the person you are it his not who you want to be linked to for a lifetime commitment look at the relationship before you marry.

God does not want you abused. If you are get help if you have addiction, abuse or narcissistic behaviors get help now.

A Prayer for All Married and Engaged Couples

Heavenly Father, we come before You today with humble hearts, lifting up all those who are married. I pray that You fill their hearts with Your love—so deep, so enduring—that they continue to love each other selflessly, putting You first in their relationship. May they cherish one another above all else, respecting, forgiving, and supporting each other through every challenge and blessing.

For those who are in marriages where they feel unequally yoked, Lord, I ask for Your healing and guidance. Break any chains of misunderstanding, resentment, or conflict. Restore their unity and help them to see Your plan for their marriage. Heal wounds, soften hardened hearts, and draw them into Your love.

For those engaged or contemplating marriage with someone who does not share their faith or values, I pray for Your divine insight. Open their eyes to see clearly, Lord—whether this relationship is aligned with Your will or if they need to wait and trust in Your perfect timing.

Lord, Your Word says in Proverbs 3:5-6, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to Him, and He will make your paths straight.” We trust You to lead every couple on the path of righteousness and peace.

We ask all this in the mighty name of Jesus. Amen.

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The Gift of Friendship: A Reflection on Love, Relationships, and God’s Blessing

Growing up, I learned that loving people and valuing relationships was written deep on the tablet of my heart. My parents modeled this for me in their own special ways. My mom always had a circle of friends—that she treasured, and she had many people she was an acquaintance with who also loved her.

My dad, seemed to make a new friend every day! Though different in personality, both of my parents cherished their friendships and nurtured them with care and loyalty.

My father was Croatian, and my mother from what I’ve uncovered through Ancestry, has Switzerland/German and Irish roots. Interestingly, I found I have more Croatian DNA than Irish or German, which I think speaks to the strong, vibrant spirit of my father’s side of the family.

Croatian women, like my relatives, weren’t afraid to speak their minds and were loud and boisterous—making friends came naturally, me included! The men, although more quiet, were kind and well-loved by everyone. They were good souls eager to help anyone in need. They had many acquaintances and many friends and even if they didn’t know you, they would help you..

On my mother’s side, the story was a bit different. Her friends from childhood, her close family—her sisters and grandmother—they shared a bond that lasted a lifetime. The only time they were loud was when they all gathered together, sharing laughter that filled the room with warmth. They got along as adults, laughing freely, and that joy always stuck with me. You would end up laughing so hard just from hearing them laugh even though you had no idea what they said. It was so funny..

From both sides, I saw in them long-term friendships that stood the test of time. These relationships weren’t fleeting—they were built on loyalty, kindness, and love. That’s what touched my heart most.

Friendship is a gift from God that brings blessings that last a lifetime.

I can’t remember where I read it, but it said in my mind “True friendship is one of the sweetest things in life. Friends are chosen family; they cheer us on through discouraging seasons, celebrate with us in joy, and lift us up when life gets tough. The happiest moments are brighter because of those close to us.”

Throughout Scripture, we see how important relationships are. Proverbs speaks directly to the wisdom of choosing good friends and the dangers of bad company. The New Testament encourages us to pray for one another, to carry each other’s burdens, and to treat others as we want to be treated—these are the qualities of true friendship.

Over the past few months, I have truly come to realize how powerful and precious this gift of friendship is.

Good friends don’t disappoint; they don’t leave us empty-handed. They offer comfort, encouragement, and companionship—sometimes in big ways, sometimes in small. They stand with us in trials, rejoice in our victories, and show us unconditional love. They know who we are—past, present, and future—and love us still.

I am so grateful for the friends in my life. Some I’ve known for over 50 years. It’s astonishing to think that after all this time, when we reconnect, it feels like just yesterdayno judgment, lots of laughs and true concern for each other.

True friendship isn’t about seeing each other every week; it’s about the heart connection—being there when it matters most.

And I believe that this heart connection is one of God’s greatest blessings. Family can sometimes be influenced by their own struggles or biases, but friends often understand us in a way family cannot. They love us for who we are, not what they want us to be.

I am blessed beyond words, and I pray you are, too. May you cherish the friendships that bless your life, and may you always remember that true friendship is a divine gift—one that reflects God’s love and faithfulness.

Let us give thanks to God for placing special friends in our lives and for the eternal friendship We have in Him.

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Celebrating Father’s Day: Honoring the Men Who Guide and Support Us

Happy Father’s Day to all the dads, grandfathers, bonus dads, and pet dads. Today is a special opportunity to pause and genuinely thank the men in our lives who have made a difference.

It’s important to recognize and appreciate the fathers and grandfathers who consistently show love, strength, and dedication. For Christian men, the role of a husband is clear—he is the head of his wife, just as Christ is the head and Savior of the church, His body. This reflects a God-ordained leadership marked by love, sacrifice, and service.

When we are blessed to have a good dad—someone we can always lean on, who is there through thick and thin, a loving husband and grandfather—it’s a gift we should cherish. Good fathers are rare in a world where many men are self-centered, irresponsible, or abusive, neglecting their responsibilities or hurting their children.

But there are many fathers—a dad who plays catch, teaches you how to drive, helps you learn to handle challenges like a flat tire, or simply shows what it means to be a godly man. Those men have a profound impact that lasts a lifetime.

My dad was such a man. Though we weren’t wealthy, we lived richly through love, family, and making time for each other. He attended my school plays, all owed his granddaughter to play beauty parlor on him, as she pretended to cut and style his hair, and he always made family his priority. Nothing mattered more to him than being there for those he loved.

My second husband shares these values. After nearly 30 years of marriage, he is hardworking kind, considerate, and a strong example of a God-fearing man. He’s always ready to help.

Sometimes, people take their parents and grandparents for granted, caught up in their own lives. They forget how much those men have sacrificed or how deeply they’ve been there for us. But someday, those dads and grandfathers won’t be with us anymore. The time we have with them is precious, and it’s never too late to show appreciation.

Don’t be like the Cat’s in the Cradle song- missed opportunities in family relationships, highlighting the impact of a father’s neglect on both himself and his son.

So today, I encourage you to reach out. Tell your dad, grandpa, or father figure how much they mean to you. A simple “I love you” or “Thank you for everything” can brighten their day and remind them of their importance.

And if your dad has passed on, take a moment to speak to him in your heart and thank him in heaven. Their love and sacrifices stay with us forever.

A Prayer for Fathers

Heavenly Father,
Today we thank You for the men You have placed in our lives—fathers, grandfathers, step fathers and father figures. We are grateful for their love, guidance, and strength.
We ask You to bless them abundantlyfill their hearts with peace, wisdom, and joy. Strengthen the dads who are working hard every day, and remind them how valued they are.
Help all fathers to reflect Your love and to lead their families with kindness and integrity. Protect those who are hurting or struggling, and bless the next generation with good examples of godly men.
We pray for Your grace and favor over all the dads and granddads. May they feel appreciated today and every day. In Jesus’ name, we pray. Amen.

So thank you dad for being a good Christian man, father , husband and example of what a man should be.

Love and Miss You

To my Dad who I was so blessed to have

I love and miss you

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The Power of Kindness and the Love of a Mother

The Power of Kindness and the Love of a Mother

Kindness is a force stronger than any lesson learned in a classroom. It’s the quiet strength behind simple gestures—a warm smile, an encouraging word, a moment of understanding that can change someone’s life forever.

The story of Teddy and Mrs. Thompson reminds us of just that. A boy, weighed down by grief, nearly lost himself. A teacher, caught in the motions of routine, almost overlooked him. But one small act—an old bracelet and a bottle of perfume—awakened an undeniable truth: people just want to be seen, heard, and loved.

Learning to Be Kind

Kindness isn’t grand gestures or elaborate sacrifices; it’s everyday moments:

  • Listening when someone needs a friend.
  • Encouraging when someone doubts their worth.
  • Showing patience when frustration tempts us otherwise.
  • Showing up for those who care about you and you say you care about.

The more we practice kindness, the more it becomes second nature—like breathing. And when kindness is given freely, it has a way of returning tenfold.

Never Taking Your Mother for Granted

For those blessed to have a mother’s love, cherish it. The little things—her voice on the phone, her advice (even when you don’t ask for it), the warmth in her embrace—are treasures we don’t always realize until they’re gone. Her smell.

A mother’s love is selfless, boundless, and unwavering.

So, call her. Hug her. Thank her. Appreciate her while you can.

Because someday, her perfume might be all that’s left, and you’ll wish you had just one more moment to tell her how much she means to you.

There’s a story from many years ago that tells of an

A Story

An elementary school teacher whose name was Mrs.

Thompson.

As she stood in front of her fifth-grade class

On the first day of school, she told her children a lie. Like most

teachers, she looked at her students and told them that she loved

them all the same. But that simply was not true, because there in

the front row, slumped in his seat, was a little boy named Teddy

Stoddard.

Mrs. Thompson had watched Teddy the year before and

noticed that he didn’t play well with the other children. His clothes

were messy and he constantly needed a bath. Teddy could be

unpleasant at times. It got to the point where Mrs. Thompson

would take delight in marking his papers with a broad red pen

and making bold X’s and finally putting a Big “F” on the top of his

papers.

At the school where Mrs. Thompson taught, she was required

to review each child’s past records. She put Teddy’s off till last.

When she finally reviewed his file, she was in for a surprise.

Teddys first grade teacher wrote, “Teddy is a bright child with

a ready laugh. He does his work neatly and has good manners.

He’s a joy to be around.” His second-grade teacher wrote, “Teddy

is an excellent student and well-liked by his classmates. But he’s

troubled because his mother has a terminal illness and life at home

must be a struggle.” His third-grade teacher wrote, “His mother’s

death has been hard on him. He tries to do his best but his father

doesn’t show much interest. His home life will soon affect him if

steps aren’t taken.” Teddys fourth grade teacher wrote, “Teddy is

withdrawn and doesn’t show much interest in school. He doesn’t

have many friends and sometimes he even sleeps in class.”

By now, Mrs. Thompson realized the problem and she

was ashamed of herself. She felt even worse when her students

brought her Christmas presents wrapped in beautiful ribbons

and bright paper, except for Teddys.

His present was clumsily wrapped in heavy brown paper that he got

from a grocery bag.

Mrs. Thompson took pains to open it in the middle of the other

presents. Some of the children started to laugh when she found a

rhinestone bracelet with some of the stones missing and a bottle

that was one quarter full of perfume.

But she stifled the children’s laughter when she explained

how pretty the bracelet was while

putting it on and then dabbing some of the perfume on her wrist.

Teddy Stoddard stayed after school that day just long enough to

say, “Mrs. Thompson, today you smell just like my mom used to.”

After the children left, she cried for at least an hour.

On this very day, she quit teaching reading, writing and

arithmetic and instead she began to teach children.

Mrs. Thompson began to pay close attention to Teddy as she worked

with him. As time went on his mind seemed to come alive. The

more she encouraged him, the faster he responded. By the end

of the year, Teddy had become one of the smartest children in the

class.

Despite her lie, he had become one of her teacher’s pets. A

year later she found a note under the door from Teddy telling her

that she was the best teacher he had ever had in his whole life.

Six years passed by and to her surprise, another note came

from Teddy. He wrote that he had finished high school third in

his class and that she was still the best teacher that he had ever

had in his whole life. Four years later, another letter came, saying

that while things had been tough at times, he stayed in school

and stuck with it and that he had graduated from college with the

highest of honors.

He assured Mrs. Thompson that she was still

the very best and favorite teacher he had ever had in his whole life.

Four more years passed by and yet another letter came. This

time he explained that after he got his bachelor’s degree, he had

decided to go a little further. Again, assuring her that she was still

the best and favorite teacher he ever had.

The letter was signed

Theodore F. Stoddard MD.

The story doesn’t end there. There was one final letter that

spring. Teddy said that he had met this girl and that he was going

to be married. He explained that his father had died a couple years

ago and he was wondering if Mrs. Thompson might agree to sit in

the place, at his wedding, that was usually reserved for the mother

of the groom. Of course, Mrs. Thompson did. She wore that

bracelet, the one with the several rhinestones missing. She also

made sure she was wearing the perfume that Teddy remembered

his mother wearing on their last Christmas together. After the

wedding, they hugged each other as Dr. Stoddard whispered

in Mrs. Thompson ear, “Thank you so much for making me feel

important and showing me that I could make a difference.” Mrs.

Thompson, with tears in her eyes, whispered back, “Teddy you

have it all wrong. You were the one who taught me that I could

make a difference. I didn’t know how to teach until I met you.”

I quickly realized the countless times I too, like Mrs. Thompson,

had judged someone by their appearance, just like you have. Maybe the wrong clothes, not as expensive as yours, or the ones you

see standing at the intersections with the signs that read, “Will

work for food.” How quickly I have judged these souls without ever

considering what events in their lives have led them to where they

now stand. Are they scammers? maybe but maybe not….As we each go through our daily lives, it is inevitable

that we are going to run into those who just seem to be in the way

or who don’t quite live up to our expectations.

You’ve heard the old saying that we should never judge

another until you have walked a mile in their shoes.

Our joys and our struggles in life come in many

different forms, but we all share them. No one person is an island.

You never know how one kind word or act of kindness might affect

another. And you never know how one mean word or act of disrespect

can really hurt someone to their core.

The next time you see that waitress who seems to be having

an attitude, or brings you the wrong meal, why not leave her a

generous tip. The coworker who never has anything good to say

about you, look for the good in them and mention it. The clerk down

at the local convenient store who never has a smile on his face,

try putting one on them. How about the man in the wheelchair

who lost his legs, maybe he lost them fighting for our freedom?

The mom or dad who is lonely because her children forgot she existed.

We would be wise to learn to rejoice with those who rejoice as well

as mourn with those who mourn. No matter what your walk in life, your

color, race, religion, or background, we are all in this together.

We are a universe. Uni meaning one and verse meaning song. As one

sailor said to the other, “We all row the same boat.” We are one

song, now let’s make some beautiful music.

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The True Meaning of Freedom: A Reflection for Memorial Day

As we observe Memorial Day, a day set aside to honor those who have sacrificed their lives for our freedoms, it’s important to reflect on what true freedom really means. From a biblical perspective, the foundation of freedom is rooted in God’s creation of mankind. We are made as free moral agents, capable of choosing to love and follow Him.

The Biblical Foundation of Freedom

In Scripture, the word “freedom” comes from a Greek root that captures several aspects of spiritual truth:

  • Freedom from restraint and obligation (Romans 7:3)
  • Freedom from bondage and slavery (John 8:33)
  • Freedom from sin itself (John 8:36)

This indicates that true freedom isn’t simply doing whatever we please; it’s liberation from the constraints that enslave us—whether that’s sin, guilt, or spiritual bondage. As Miriam Webster’s Dictionary defines it, freedom is “the quality or state of being free from necessity, coercion, constraint, slavery, and the power of others.”

However, within biblical theology, freedom is not the liberty to do whatever we want without consequence. Instead, it is the freedom from sin that enables us to live in obedience and alignment with God’s will. Freedom, in God’s plan, is about being set free to pursue righteousness, love, and His divine purpose.

The Cost of Freedom

Freedom is seldom free. History teaches us that “for freedom to exist, someone had to die.” Many have given their lives or are willing to soldiers, veterans, and others—so that we might enjoy the liberty we often take for granted today. Over 2.8 million have sacrificed their lives in battle defending this nation.

But spiritual freedom also comes at a high cost. Jesus Christ, the ultimate sacrifice, died on the cross so we could be free from the power of sin. His death was the price paid for our liberty from spiritual bondage. Countless Christians have also suffered and even died for the sake of spiritual freedom, standing firm in their faith when it was costly.

Maintaining Our Freedom

Memorial Day reminds us to honor those who paid the greatest price for our freedoms. But it also calls us to reflect on how we maintain the freedoms we enjoy today—both in the natural and spiritual sense.

Spiritually, maintaining our freedom involves daily commitment walking in obedience, reading God’s Word, praying, and trusting in Jesus Christ. It’s about guarding our hearts against the forces that threaten to enslave us again—sin, temptation, petty, gossip, and worldly distractions.

In Galatians 5:1, Paul reminds us, “It is for freedom that Christ has set us free. Stand firm, then, and do not let yourselves be burdened again by a yoke of slavery.” That’s a call to remain vigilant, to hold onto the liberty Christ purchased with His own blood.

A Day to Remember and Recommit

As we reflect on those who have fought and fallen, let’s also remember that our greatest freedom—spiritual freedom—is a gift from God’s grace through Jesus Christ. This Memorial Day, let us honor both the sacrifices made in the physical realm and the spiritual freedom bought at an eternal cost.

May we live each day in gratitude, valuing our freedoms, and committed to walking in the liberty that Christ offers. And through our lives, may we honor their sacrifice by living out the truth of God’s Word and sharing the freedom found in Him with others.

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Embracing Motherhood: A Journey of Love and Grace

Do you ever sit back and wonder if you’re doing a good job as a mother? Trust me, you’re not alone. We’ve all said things we regret, made choices we wish we could change, and had days that left us questioning ourselves. But let’s take a moment to reflect on the extraordinary journey of motherhood, filled with love, challenges, and little victories.

Picture this: A mom, exhausted from a long day, she works part time or maybe she works full-time. She has kids that are involved in soccer and dance, so she’s the family taxi and she finally finds a quiet moment in her living room after catching up on the news.

Her kids are wrapping up their homework, and her husband is chatting with her about his day. As she glances at the clock and realizes it’s already 7:30 PM, fatigue washes over her. She thinks to herself, “Maybe I should just head to bed.” so she tells her husband and her children that she’s tired had a long day and she just wants to go up and go to bed. So everyone tells her good night gives her a hug and they go about what they’re doing.

She thinks but first, there are a few little things that demand her attention—things that often go unnoticed.

She heads into the kitchen, pulling food from the freezer for dinner tomorrow, packing lunches, and tidying up the mess she just made in the process. It’s a familiar routine, but one that takes effort and time. She preps the coffee for the morning, folds laundry from the dryer, and remembers that she needs to start another load.

Amidst this whirlwind of activity, she notices the dog’s bowl is empty—so she fills it up with water and food. Then, a gentle reminder pops into her mind: it’s her friend’s birthday tomorrow. She signs a card and quickly fills out permission slips for the kids’ school events. Just when she thinks she might finally unwind, her husband playfully reminds her, “Aren’t you supposed to be getting to bed?”

But her heart knows better. She’s putting in the late hours to ensure everything runs smoothly for her family. She heads upstairs, hangs up the freshly ironed uniforms, and checks in on her kids to make sure they’re tucked in tight. Finally, she settles down with her Bible for a moment of peace.

Just then, the call of duty beckons again—“Mom! Can you help me with my homework?” And off she goes, ready to assist. After helping her child finish up, she takes a deep breath and prepares to sleep while also remembering to take her medication and toss yet another load of laundry in the dryer. By now, her husband is tired and says well I think I’ll go to bed and he did . She chooses to read a few minutes of her Bible just because it’s now totally quiet and then she finally turns off the lights, ready to surrender to rest.

This beautiful chaos is a testament to the incredible women in our lives—moms, daughters, granddaughters sisters, cousins, aunts partners, and friends—who juggle countless responsibilities with grace. Whether you’re a stay-at-home mom, a working mom, or someone who plays the role of a caregiver, your efforts are nothing short of amazing. Remember, women rock!

To the men out there, please take a moment to appreciate the remarkable women in your lives. Recognize the love and dedication they put into every detail, from folding laundry to planning family meals. Those small tasks may seem insignificant, but they’re a labor of love that deserves recognition.

For those women facing tougher battles—perhaps struggling in an abusive relationship or questioning their worth during a divorce—hear this: You are doing your best. Every decision comes from a place of love for yourself and your children, even if it’s not always obvious to others. Don’t let the opinions of others dim your shine. It’s their loss if they can’t see the incredible person you are.

So, give yourself some grace. Forgive yourself for not meeting every expectation, and show yourself the love and respect you so abundantly give to others. You deserve it!

Let’s lift each other up instead of tearing ourselves down. Take a moment to breathe, appreciate your journey, and recognize the strength within you. And don’t forget to say thank you to the women in your life it means more than you can imagine.

Remember, motherhood is not only about perfection; it’s about love, resilience, and the countless ways we care for one another. So here’s to all the amazing mothers out there, mom’s with children moms with pets mom’s of all kinds—keep shining, keep loving, and continue to embrace the beautiful journey of motherhood with kindness towards yourself. ❤️

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Good Friday Reflection:

The Greatest Act of LoveAs we gather to reflect on Good Friday, it’s a poignant time to meditate on the depth of Jesus’ love expressed through sacrifice. In John 15:13, we read, “Greater love has no one than this, that someone lay down his life for his friends.” This powerful verse encapsulates the essence of what Good Friday represents—the ultimate act of love through self-sacrifice.

The Core Message

At its heart, this scripture reveals that true love often requires significant sacrifice. By laying down His life, Jesus demonstrated the highest form of love—one that goes beyond mere words or gestures. It is a call to action, urging us to consider how we can show love to those around us by putting their needs before our own.

And the Context

This verse comes from a profound moment known as Jesus’ farewell discourse, where He imparts wisdom to His disciples prior to His crucifixion. He emphasizes the imperative of loving one another and remaining obedient to God’s commands. In these final moments, Jesus not only reassures His followers but also sets the stage for the greatest sacrifice in history.

Understanding “Friends”

When Jesus refers to His disciples as “friends,” He establishes a deep, intimate relationship with them. This term signifies more than companionship; it reflects a bond of loyalty and shared purpose. As followers of Christ, we are invited into this friendship, called to love others in the same way He loved us.

Application: Living Out the Love of Christ

Good Friday challenges us to examine our own lives and consider how we might embody this sacrificial love. Whether through acts of service, like volunteering, teaching gods word, random acts of kindness, or even personal sacrifice, we are reminded of our calling to care for others. Others means your family, friends and strangers.

Jesus’ life and death set the standard, urging us to prioritize the well-being of our family, and neighbors and friends. You don’t have to be rich to make them a priority, call them , check on them, if they are struggling help them.

Jesus and his willingness to give everything for humanity underscores our duty to reflect that love in our own actions. We are encouraged to reach out to those in need, stand up for justice, and serve selflessly, even when it is difficult.

The Crucifixion: A Moment of Surrender

In Luke 23:46, Jesus uttered the poignant words, “Father, into your hands I commit my spirit!” This moment of surrender beautifully encapsulates His obedience and trust in God’s plan. It serves as a reminder that surrendering to God is a powerful act of faith, especially in times of pain and uncertainty.

The Foundation of Our Faith

Several scriptures further illuminate the significance of Christ’s sacrifice.

  • 1 Peter 2:24 tells us, “He himself bore our sins in his body on the tree, that we might die to sin and live to righteousness. By his wounds you have been healed.” This verse highlights how His suffering was for our benefit, offering us healing and redemption.
  • 1 Corinthians 15:3 proclaims, “Christ died for our sins in accordance with the Scriptures.” This reinforces the fulfillment of God’s promise throughout history.
  • John 3:16 famously states, “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life.” Here, we see the expansive reach of Jesus’ love, inviting all into relationship with Him.
  • Romans 5:8 echoes this sentiment, “But God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” His love is unconditional, offered freely even when we fall short.
  • In John 19:30, as Jesus declared, “It is finished,” He confirmed the completion of His mission, paving the way for salvation.

A Call to Reflect

On this Good Friday, let us take a moment to reflect on the profound implications of Jesus’ sacrifice. How can we honor His love in our daily lives? How can we emulate the selflessness that He demonstrated? As we remember His journey to the cross, let’s commit ourselves to living out our faith through acts of love and service.

May this day inspire us to deepen our understanding of sacrifice—both His and our own—as we strive to be vessels of His love in the world. Happy Good Friday!

Make time to watch the movie about the crucifixion of Jesus .

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The Garden of Gethsemane

The Garden of Gethsemane, located in East Jerusalem, is an olive grove whose name means “a place of pressing.” It’s here where workers would place olives into a press and extract valuable olive oil under significant pressure. Before Jesus went to the cross and rose from the dead, He passed through this very garden. It was in Gethsemane that He felt immense distress, knowing the crucifixion awaited Him;

His sweat became like drops of blood as He expressed, “My soul is overwhelmed with sorrow to the point of death” (Matthew 26:38). This was His moment of trial, a season of suffering that He had to endure.

In the stillness of Gethsemane, the devil sought to sway,
Whispering doubts and tempting Jesus to stray.
Yet amidst the anguish, His resolve held strong,
Choosing God’s will, He proved where we belong.

While we celebrate the resurrection, it’s crucial to recognize that the true victory was achieved in Gethsemane. It was here that Jesus chose not to give in, despite the impending betrayal, the unjust trial, the brutal beatings, the agony of the cross, and the weight of our sins. Under immense pressure, He made a pivotal decision: “Father, not My will but Your will be done” (Matthew 26:39). This shows us that real victory isn’t achieved in public; it’s forged in private moments. How we respond in our own Gethsemane—whether we are grappling with challenges, facing delays in our dreams, or enduring personal trials—is what truly matters.

The apostle Paul expressed, “I want to know Him and the power of His resurrection, and the fellowship of His sufferings” (Philippians 3:10). Resurrection cannot exist without some suffering. It requires a strong will, a determined mind, a warrior’s mentality: “I will not give in to complaining, blaming, doubting, or worrying. I know that beyond this suffering lies the power of the resurrection.” Beyond that struggle lies healing, abundance, divine connections, and new opportunities. The anguish and pressure we face are temporary; they do not define the conclusion of our story. Gethsemane is merely a season—a passage meant for us to experience so we can embrace the power, fullness, and abundance God has in store.

However, the enemy would love for us to become trapped in Gethsemane, questioning, “God, why? Why did this door close? Why is this taking so long?” Doubts about our families or jobs may creep in, just as the devil attempted to exploit Jesus’ moment of vulnerability, trying to persuade Him toward despair. Yet Jesus stood strong, even faced with His imminent death.

You cannot reach your destiny without experiencing pressure, feeling squeezed, or hearing thoughts that suggest things won’t work out and that God has forgotten you. Your very feelings of pressure are indicators that a resurrection is on the horizon.

You wouldn’t be in Gethsemane if something extraordinary wasn’t imminent—doors opening that you never imagined, business opportunities finding you, the right people entering your life, and healing from situations that seem impossible. It’s essential to keep doing the right thing, especially during tough times, because soon enough, you will witness the power of the resurrection!

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Death to old Self Starts the Moment of Our Salvation -We are Born Again

Death to self occurs at the moment of salvation , we are “born again” its when we are crucified with Christ, as stated in Romans 6:6. 

At this point, we receive a new nature because the Holy Spirit comes to dwell within us (John 14:17). 

However, sometimes it takes time for us to willingly make sacrifices. 

If you can recall, there are times when you might be in a pickle and you start praying. Oh Lord, if you just help me out, I will go to church or oh Lord, if you get me out of the situation or change my ways , or Lord if you let me survive, I will do better …..and then you come out of that pickle ; you get out of that jam and you survive the situation were in and then you don’t follow through

So we’re really not ready to sacrifice everything to grow closer to God. You haven’t followed through even though God followed through. We must stop acting as if God grants us wishes he is not a genie. He is your Lord and you should be obedient or at least follow through and keep your word.

When we truly value what God has given us, we can experience the freedom He intends for us. Jesus’ purpose is to shape us into His likeness, as outlined in Romans 8:29. 

But to fulfill this calling, we must be willing to place Christ in a prominent position in our lives. That means put him above everything and everyone else above your self and your significant other your parents your children, friends, money …everything .

This means that the Lord calls  us to the cross on a daily basis. 

 and lay down anything that distracts us from serving and following Him. 

It’s important to understand that God isn’t asking us to give up everything so we see ourselves as lonely or poor. 

Instead, laying down our treasures—whether they are possessions, relationships, or dreams—at the foot of the cross frees us from worldly attachments. You don’t want to worship money, things, you don’t want to brag about how much money you have , you don’t want to brag about who you gave $ to , you are to give quietly. Don’t throw money at a junkie you’re not helping him. Don’t throw money at people using you give to those who you know lives could be better by your help. A single parent raising kids, battered women, veterans living with ptsd, elderly who struggle to have food and medicine. Surprise someone with a car not a new car but a used one. If a woman’s or man is driving a 1980 Toyota that body looks like Swiss cheese maybe get them a 2000 Toyota or a something better they will be just as grateful. Pay a persons medical bill ease their burden, do good with what you have , if your broke volunteer , help in other ways. but don’t idolize it ! we must release these things, so our self-esteem no longer depends on them, and our sense of acceptance comes from being complete in the Lord. As Paul said, we are alive in God through Jesus Christ (Romans 6:11).

We must be a blessing to others but we should never worship fame and money more than we do our God.

When we idolize money it ourself it sets us up for the devil to slide in to convince you you are better than God

Your not.

So when you are saved you start to put God first and you will begin to grow.

Peace.