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From Longing to Solitude: Martha’s Journey on the Lonely Coast”(Storytelling)

Posted on by ChronicallyGratefulDeb

Martha, a spirited woman with a heart full of love, decided to embark on a journey that would bring her closer to her children. Leaving the bustling cityscape of New York, she ventured 2700 miles west to California, hopeful for the warmth of family bonds. Little did she know that this relocation would unfold into a story of unexpected solitude and heartache.

Martha’s daughter, Cindi, and her grandchildren lived on the West Coast. Martha, eager to be an active part of their lives, thought the move would foster closeness. However, the reality she faced was far from her expectations.

Despite Martha’s genuine efforts, her children, especially Cindi, seemed distant and unresponsive. The warmth she anticipated was replaced with an icy silence that left her feeling adrift in a sea of loneliness. Martha couldn’t comprehend why her children, whom she had moved across the country to be near, were now seemingly indifferent to her presence.

Cindi’s attitude was particularly perplexing. Instead of embracing the newfound proximity, she questioned Martha’s decision to move and, at times, callously suggested that she should go back to where she came from. The hurtful words echoed in Martha’s heart, leaving scars on the once joyous woman who had left everything behind for family.

It was a puzzle for Martha – the disconnection, the rejection. Why were her beautiful children acting so ungrateful? How could they disregard the sacrifice she made for them?

Martha, faced with this emotional turmoil, sought solace in various ways. She found comfort in journaling, pouring her emotions onto the pages that became a silent confidant. She joined local community groups, hoping to build connections beyond her immediate family. In these activities, Martha discovered a resilient spirit within herself.

She sought professional counseling to navigate the complexities of her strained relationships. Through therapy, Martha learned that she couldn’t control her children’s actions but could control how she responded to the situation. The counselor helped her develop coping strategies, focusing on self-care and finding joy in small moments.

Over time, Martha realized that while she couldn’t force her children to change, she could nurture her own well-being. She embraced the beauty of the West Coast, explored new hobbies, and made friends who became her chosen family.

Her and her daughter rarely spoke but thankfully she made friends and when her grandchildren got older they came to visit.

Martha’s story serves as a testament to the resilience of the human spirit. Despite the unexpected twists and heartaches, she found strength within herself to build a fulfilling life on the lonely coast, proving that even in solitude, one can discover a sense of belonging and joy.

Posted in Blessed, Blogging, Family, Uncategorized

Cherishing the Blessing of a Good Husband: A Personal Reflection

Posted on by ChronicallyGratefulDeb

Hello everyone,

I wanted to take a moment to share my thoughts, particularly with all the wonderful women out there who, like me, are fortunate to have an amazing husband, partner, or significant other. This is my second chance at love, and I feel truly blessed to have found someone special. Despite being an ordained minister, I’m only human, and life’s stresses can sometimes take their toll.

There are moments when I, too, falter—times when frustration and impatience and yes even anger at a specific situation has crept in. Yet, I am grateful to have a Christian husband by my side, a man who embodies qualities of patience and kindness, softer spoken, not loud, mean or arrogant. It’s a reminder that even those of us who strive to spread love and understanding can stumble.

I want to emphasize the importance of taking a pause in our busy lives to truly appreciate the good people around us, especially a supportive partner. In my case, it’s a husband who stands by me with unwavering patience and kindness. It’s easy to get caught up in the whirlwind of life, but moments of reflection help us recognize the love and support we’re surrounded by.

Let’s make a conscious effort to cherish those who bring positivity into our lives. Whether it’s a husband, boyfriend, significant other, or partner, they contribute to our well-being in ways both big and small. Today, I encourage you all to take a moment to express gratitude and love for the wonderful individuals who make our journeys richer.

He makes cookies with me and makes a great birthday cake.

He works hard most of the time too hard.

Growing old with your best friend and life partner is a journey that unveils the true beauty of companionship. There’s something profoundly special about finding that person who not only understands you but embraces you—flaws and all. My heart swells with gratitude as I reflect on the incredible bond I share with my husband.

In the tapestry of life, the threads of our connection have woven a story of acceptance and love. There’s a unique joy in realizing that someone sees you, truly sees you, and loves you for everything you are. The quirks, imperfections, and idiosyncrasies become endearing aspects of a shared history.

To have a partner who not only tolerates but celebrates your uniqueness is a rare and beautiful gift. It’s the comfort of being yourself without fear of judgment—a sanctuary of love where both strengths and weaknesses are acknowledged and cherished.

As the years pass, this journey of growing old together becomes a testament to the strength of our connection. We navigate the highs and lows hand in hand, finding solace in the familiarity of each other’s presence. There’s a certain magic in having a front-row seat to witness the evolution of a relationship, deepening with time like a fine wine.

My husband is amazing

In moments of joy and in times of challenge, my husband stands by my side, and I by his. The shared laughter and the shared tears become the mortar that fortifies the foundation of our companionship. It’s a partnership built on understanding, respect, and unwavering support.

So, here’s to growing old with the one who knows the melody of your heart. Here’s to the quiet moments and the shared adventures. And most importantly, here’s to accepting and embracing each other—flaws and all. I am immensely grateful for the gift of a lifelong companion, for a journey that continues to unfold, and for a love that only deepens with the passage of time.

Wishing everyone a day filled with appreciation and warmth.

Deb

P/s

Love you Tom

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Embrace life’s simplicity and break free from unnecessary seriousness

Posted on by ChronicallyGratefulDeb

Embrace life’s simplicity and break free from unnecessary seriousness. If something feels amiss, take action—don’t overcomplicate. I believe in proactive living, steering clear of stagnation. If a situation persists, I choose serenity by distancing myself. This philosophy applies to relationships, careers, friendships, and more. Our existence is meant for joy, not suffering.

Life doesn’t need to be so complex we make it that way.

I am happy with a decent roof over my head a good meal and surrounded by people I enjoy and who enjoy me.

Not a fan of drama or always complaining, sometimes I get off track but soon bring myself back to center by reading my Bible.

Find solace in the Bible, cherish family moments, relish good meals, and savor fresh air. Bid farewell to defeatism; cultivate a positive mindset. Here are two uplifting Bible verses and a daily positive quote:

  1. “Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice!” – Philippians 4:4
  2. “The Lord is my strength and my shield; my heart trusts in him, and he helps me.” – Psalm 28:7

Positive quote for the day: “Optimism is the faith that leads to achievement. Nothing can be done without hope and confidence.” – Helen Keller

Posted in Family Dinner, Uncategorized

The Importance of Family Meals: Nourishing Bonds and Hearts

Posted on by ChronicallyGratefulDeb

In our fast-paced world, where each family member often has a different schedule and set of obligations, finding time to sit down together for a family breakfast, lunch, or dinner may seem like a challenge. However, the simple act of sharing a meal can have profound effects on the closeness and communication within a family. Let’s explore why this tradition is essential and how it can bring a family closer together.

**The Power of Family Meals:**

1. **A Time for Connection:** Family meals provide a unique opportunity for family members to come together and connect on a daily basis. Sharing a meal allows for conversation, laughter, and the exchange of stories, helping family members understand each other’s lives and experiences better.

2. **Building Stronger Relationships:** Sitting down together regularly strengthens the bonds between family members. It fosters a sense of unity, trust, and support within the family, making everyone feel valued and loved.

3. **Communication and Sharing:** It’s during these moments that family members can discuss their day, express concerns, or share their dreams and aspirations. Open and honest communication is vital for the overall well-being of a family.

4. **Cultivating Healthy Eating Habits:** Regular family meals can also contribute to healthier eating habits. When parents or guardians set a positive example by serving nutritious meals, it encourages children to make healthier food choices.

5. **Teaching Values:** The act of coming together for meals can also teach important values like gratitude, respect, and discipline. These values help shape children into responsible and empathetic individuals.

**Bible Verses on Family:**

1. *Ephesians 6:4* – “Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.” This verse highlights the importance of parental guidance and nurturing in a family.

2. *Proverbs 22:6* – “Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.” This verse emphasizes the role of parents in guiding and teaching their children.

**Positive Quote about Eating Dinner Together:**

*”The fondest memories are made when gathered around the table.”* – This quote beautifully encapsulates the idea that the most cherished moments are often shared during family meals. It’s a reminder of the warmth and joy that can be found when we come together to dine as a family.

In conclusion, making the effort to sit down as a family for meals is an investment in the well-being and closeness of your loved ones. It’s a time for connection, communication, and the nurturing of values that will stay with your family for a lifetime. So, let’s make a commitment to prioritize family meals and cherish the moments we share around the table.

Posted in genealogy, family history, Uncategorized

Unveiling Family Mysteries: My Genealogical Journey Found While Repacking Old Boxes

Posted on by ChronicallyGratefulDeb

Hello, everyone! I hope you’ve been well. I apologize for my brief absence; it’s been a whirlwind of activity as we prepare for our big move from Ohio to the sunny shores of Florida. But today, I’m excited to share with you an unexpected blessing that has recently come my way.

You see, I’m an avid genealogy and history enthusiast. Whether it’s local history, state government, worldwide events, or the intricacies of family history, I’m captivated by it all. For me, delving into genealogy was an absolute must.

The Mystery of My Maternal Grandmother:
My journey into the world of genealogy took an intriguing turn because of my maternal grandmother. She was born in 1902, and as many of you might be aware, the record-keeping practices of that time left much to be desired. Even today, obtaining adoption information from courts can be a challenging endeavor. My grandmother, however, knew she was adopted but seldom spoke about it. When she passed away at the remarkable age of 94 in 1996, I made it my mission to uncover the truth about her origins.

The Quest for Answers:
From 1997 onwards, I embarked on a relentless pursuit to unearth the secrets of my grandmother’s past. I can still vividly recall spending endless hours in libraries, poring over dusty records, and combing through archives. Back then, home computers weren’t as common as they are today, so the library became my haven for research.

The Surprising Discovery:
Recently, as I was going through old boxes of belongings, a hodgepodge of memories accumulated over the years, I stumbled upon a tattered book titled “America Illustrated,” dating back to the late 19th century. My love for books compelled me to keep it, and little did I know that within its fragile pages lay the answers I had been seeking for over two decades.

Inside the pages of this aged book were documents that illuminated my grandmother’s early years spent in an orphanage. Astonishingly, the answer to my lifelong question had been tucked away in a storage closet right next to our apartment all these years. It’s incredible to think that my mother had possession of this crucial piece of our family history before her passing in 2000.

Reflections and Unexpected Blessings:
As we approach the latter part of 2023, I find myself reflecting on this incredible journey. For 23 years, I unknowingly carried the key to my grandmother’s true identity with me, hidden in plain sight. It’s a powerful reminder that life’s most profound blessings can often be right under our noses, waiting for the perfect moment to reveal themselves.

Moving Forward:
In conclusion, I want to emphasize the importance of remaining open to life’s unexpected blessings. It was my granddaughter, Celina, who presented us with the incredible opportunity to move to Florida. This move has brought my daughter and me closer than ever, and we’re on the verge of settling into a beautiful new home. While this journey has been at times chaotic and daunting, it has been nothing short of thrilling.

So, dear readers, as you go about your day, remember that miracles and blessings are all around us, just waiting to be discovered. Whether it’s finding answers to long-held questions or embracing new adventures, life is full of surprises. I encourage you to be kind to others and, if the opportunity arises, be a blessing to someone you may not even know. Sometimes, it’s as simple as holding the door open for a stranger.

Wishing you all a day filled with unexpected joys and blessings. Until next time, peace.

Posted in Ancestry, Roots

Embracing Our Roots: Family History, DNA, and the Power of Traditions

Posted on by ChronicallyGratefulDeb

Good morning, everybody! I hope you’re all having a great week so far. Today, I want to dive into a topic that’s close to my heart – family history, our DNA, and the significance of preserving our ancestral traditions.

I firmly believe that, in some way, we are all connected. If we trace our lineage back to Adam and Eve, we are part of one enormous family tree. However, what I’d like to emphasize today is the importance of understanding our family history and passing down cherished traditions.

In our fast-paced world, it’s easy to forget the customs and practices that have shaped our families for generations. It could be a beloved family recipe, a particular craft, a unique style of music or dance. These are the threads that weave together the fabric of our heritage, and they deserve to be preserved.

For those like my maternal grandmother, who was adopted, the journey to uncovering one’s family history can be an arduous one. I’ve spent over two decades trying to uncover her roots, searching for clues about her biological parents. It’s been a rollercoaster of emotions, from frustration to moments of sheer joy. But my goal remains the same – to solve the mystery of her past. I know her family goes back to Switzerland.

I’ve often wondered why my grandmother chose not to discuss her adoption information to us. I mean we knew she was adopted but she refused to talk about her parents. Did it bring up painful memories, or was she too young to remember the circumstances that led her to an orphanage in early 1900s in Cleveland? Sadly, she took those secrets with her when she passed away. I respect her silence but long to uncover the story of her origins.

I’ve reached out to institutions like BeechBrook, which now holds records of the old Cleveland Protestant Orphanage Asylum. Without knowledge of her birth name, I’ve hit a roadblock in obtaining her adoption records. The journey continues, but the mystery remains unsolved. I find many courts (probate) don’t like to reveal information, but let’s be real my grandmother was born in 1902 passed in 1996. I’m sure someone could help me.

Despite this challenge, I’ve found solace and purpose in reconnecting with my dads Croatian heritage.

My dads family hails from Croatia, the former Yugoslavia, and I recall the music that filled our kitchen on Sundays when I was a child. Back then, it was an annoyance, but today, I blast that same music with pride. I’ve learned treasured recipes and started writing a book to ensure future generations can savor our culinary heritage. I’ve even reconnected with family in Croatia, uncovering a fascinating Croatian background.

I want to stress the importance of family traditions and discovering our heritage. We need to take time today to talk to our parents, grandparents, uncles and aunts cousins.

We must learn about our ancestors’ struggles and triumphs to truly appreciate who we are today. Our roots are our foundation, and by embracing them, we find a profound sense of belonging and pride.

I’d like to leave you with a positive quote on family and tradition: “In every conceivable manner, the family is a link to our past, bridge to our future.” – Alex Haley

And a Bible verse on family: “Honor your father and your mother, that your days may be long in the land that the Lord your God is giving you.” – Exodus 20:12

I hope you all have a blessed day, and I look forward to sharing more about my Croatian heritage in a future post. Until then, cherish your family traditions and the stories that connect us through time.

Posted in Family

The Power of Family Time: Making Every Day Count

Posted on by ChronicallyGratefulDeb

The Power of Family Time: Making Every Day Count


Hey there, lovely readers! Today, I want to share something close to my heart – the importance of family time. In this fast-paced world, it’s easy to get caught up in work and other responsibilities, often leaving little time for our loved ones. However, I firmly believe that making an effort to connect with our family members is vital for maintaining strong bonds and creating cherished memories. So, let’s dive into the significance of family dinners and the joy of going for walks together as we explore the beauty of spending quality time with our loved ones.

Part 1: Family Dinners – Uniting Hearts and Minds
Picture this: the aroma of a delicious home-cooked meal filling the air, the sound of laughter and conversation reverberating around the table, and the warmth of love shared among family members. In our hectic lives, finding time for family dinners can be a challenge, but it is certainly worth it. Not only does it provide us with nourishment for our bodies, but it also nourishes our souls.

When we gather around the dinner table, we have the opportunity to truly connect with each other. It’s a time to share stories about our day, listen attentively to each other, and strengthen the bond that holds us together. We can celebrate each other’s victories, offer support during challenging times, and simply enjoy each other’s company.

I believe that family dinners should not be limited to just Sundays. If possible, try to make it a daily ritual. Even if everyone’s schedules are different, find a time that works for your family and commit to it. It may require some planning and coordination, but the benefits are immeasurable.

Part 2: Rediscovering the Joy of Walks Together
In addition to family dinners, another amazing way to spend quality time together is by going for walks. Whether it’s in a nearby park or simply around your neighborhood, taking a leisurely stroll provides an opportunity to disconnect from the digital world and reconnect with each other.

As a society, we are constantly on the go, rushing from one commitment to another. But when we make a conscious effort to slow down and take walks together, something magical happens. We have the chance to engage in meaningful conversations, appreciate nature, and simply enjoy the beauty of the world around us. It also promotes a healthier lifestyle and allows us to destress and unwind.

I encourage you to commit to going for walks with your family at least a few times a week, if not every day. It doesn’t have to be a long or rigorous walk; even a short stroll can make a big difference. Use this time to reconnect with your spouse, bond with your children, and create lasting memories.

Just remember that –
Spending quality time with our family is a treasure that should never be taken for granted. Family dinners and walks provide us with the opportunity to connect, communicate, and create unforgettable moments together. As life gets busier, let’s prioritize these precious moments and cherish the gift of each other’s presence. Remember, it’s those little everyday moments that make the biggest impact on our lives.

As I reflect on the significance of family time, I am reminded of a few quotes that perfectly capture its essence:

“Family is not an important thing. It’s everything.” – Michael J. Fox
“The love of a family is life’s greatest blessing.” – Anonymous

And, here are a couple Bible verses highlighting the importance of spending time with our loved ones:

“Love one another with brotherly affection. Outdo one another in showing honor.” – Romans 12:10
“Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.” – Proverbs 22:6

So, let’s make every day count and embrace the power of family time. Together, we can create a world filled with love, joy, and cherished memories.

Posted in joyful-echoes, Mental Health, Storytelling

Reconciliation Lost

Posted on by ChronicallyGratefulDeb

Once upon a time, in a small town called Willowbrook, there lived a woman named Candy. Candy was a kind-hearted and resilient woman who had faced many challenges throughout her life. She had two children, and like any mother, she wanted to protect them from harm.

But Candy’s story took a dark turn when she found herself married to an abusive man. As the abuse intensified, Candy knew she had to do something to keep her children safe. So, with a heavy heart, she made the difficult decision to leave her husband and take her children with her.

Candy sought refuge with her parents, who lovingly helped raise her children alongside her. However, despite her constant efforts to be there for her children, particularly her daughter, there was an underlying anger that seemed to taint their relationship. Her daughter carried a chip on her shoulder, blaming Candy for the turmoil they had endured in their early years.

As the years went by, Candy longed for a closer bond with her daughter. But every attempt seemed to be met with resistance and hurtful treatment. She often walked on eggshells, fearing her daughter’s explosive anger and harsh words. It pained Candy deeply, as she had always wanted nothing more than to love and support her children unconditionally.

The situation became even more challenging when Candy’s daughter decided to move across the country, leaving Candy desperate to maintain a connection with her grandchildren. Candy, always selfless, donated most of her belongings to those in need, hoping to save money for the move and be closer to her family once again.

However, just as Candy was preparing to make the big move, her daughter’s attitude took a sudden shift. She seemed to have a change of heart and distanced herself from Candy, leaving her feeling devastated and alone. The offer of moving closer to her family had become a cruel illusion, shattering Candy’s hopes and dreams.

She cried and questioned why this was happening to her. It seemed that every turn in her life had brought disappointment and heartache. She started to lose faith in God, wondering why He would allow her to endure such pain and be treated so poorly by her own child.

Despite the turmoil, Candy’s son remained steadfast in his support for her. Even though he was stationed overseas in Germany with the military, he stood by his mother’s side and cut ties with his sister due to her cruelty. He couldn’t understand how someone could treat their own mother in such a manner.

Candy found herself reflecting on the nature of abuse and cruelty. She had tried her best to protect her children from an abusive father, only to witness her daughter exhibit similar behavior towards her. It left her feeling confused and questioning whether abuse was something inherent or learned.

During this challenging time, Candy’s true friends rallied around her, reminding her that she was loved and valued. Her church community offered support and comfort, reminding her that she had a family beyond just blood relations.

As time went on, Candy’s health began to fade. She lived out her remaining years with her son by her side, but her daughter was never made aware of her passing. The opportunity for reconciliation and healing slipped away, leaving a void in both Candy’s heart and the hearts of her grandchildren who never got to know their grandmother.

It was a sad ending to a complex and difficult story. But in its sadness, there was a powerful lesson to be learned. The story serves as a reminder to cherish and love our families, to forgive and let go of past hurts, and to prioritize kindness and empathy over anger and cruelty.

Sadly, in Candy’s case, the opportunity for reconciliation was lost. But for those who hear her story, may it serve as a wakeup call to mend broken relationships, to cherish our loved ones while they are still with us, and to remember the power of forgiveness and love in our lives.

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Story of Emma

Posted on by ChronicallyGratefulDeb

There was a little girl named Emma. Every year, when Father’s Day rolled around, Emma felt sad because she didn’t have a dad to celebrate with. Her father had passed away when she was just a baby, and she didn’t remember him.

Emma’s mom did her best to make up for it by doing special things with her on Father’s Day, but it never quite felt the same. Emma longed for a father figure in her life.

One day, Emma’s grandfather came to visit. Her grandfather was a kind and loving man who always made her feel special. He took her on walks, told her stories, and taught her how to fish. Emma loved spending time with him.

As Father’s Day approached, Emma’s grandfather noticed that she seemed sad. He asked her what was wrong, and she confided in him about her feelings.

Her grandfather listened carefully and then said, “Emma, I may not be your dad, but I am your grandfather, and I love you just as much. I will always be here for you, and I will always celebrate Father’s Day with you.”

Emma’s heart swelled with gratitude and love. She realized that even though she didn’t have a dad, she had a grandfather who loved her just the same.

On Father’s Day, Emma and her grandfather spent the day together, doing all of their favorite things. They went fishing, watched movies, and even baked a cake together. Emma couldn’t believe how lucky she was to have such a special grandfather in her life.

As she went to bed that night, Emma said a prayer of thanks for her grandfather, and for God, who she knew was always watching over her. She realized that even though life can be hard sometimes, there are always people who love us and care for us. And for Emma, that was the most important thing of all.