In case your mama or grandma didn’t teach you… I’ll step in as your friend for a minute.
But remember—above all, be the woman God created you to be.
Put God first! Before your parents, boyfriend, spouse, children. Period
Here are some things every woman should know:
Wear the lipstick. Even if it’s just to the grocery store… especially then. But don’t forget, true beauty comes from within.
Learn how to cook from scratch. Not everything should come from a box. Taking care of your home and others is a blessing.
Put on earrings. It instantly makes you feel more put together. Take care of yourself—you are God’s creation.
Good shoes can carry an entire outfit. You can wear something simple, but the right pair of shoes elevates everything.
Hairspray isn’t optional. It’s insurance. When you’re going out and in a humid state especially.
Chew your gum quietly. I love you, but we’re not out here chewing cud like a cow in a pasture. So chew with your mouth closed.
If you’re going to wear heels, learn how to walk in them. Confidence is in how you carry yourself—with grace and dignity. Don’t buy and wear 5 in heels if you look odd walking in them.
Wear a nude bra. It goes with everything and saves you from learning the hard way.
Know the time and place for low-cut clothing. You’re not a display case. Be classy, covered, and still beautiful. Honor your body. Not at family functions, or church. Capisci?
Diamonds, pearls, and gold are timeless and always a good investment.
If you can’t lose it… tan it. A little glow goes a long way.
Small, medium, large, 2X or 6X Love the body you’re in today. Care for it, respect it, and don’t tear it down.Work toward better health—not out of shame, but because you value the life God gave you.
Etiquette is free to learn, so learn it. Manners and kindness reflect your heart.
Always RSVP promptly. Respect people’s time and effort.
When invited to someone’s home, bring a small hostess gift. Thoughtfulness matters. If you bring flowers bring odd numbers as even numbers are for funerals.
Keep your cell phone out of sight during meals and conversations. Be present. Time with others is a gift. And it’s rude.
Receive compliments with a simple “thank you,” and don’t be afraid to give genuine compliments to others.
Make your bed every day. It sets the tone for everything else.
A messy home creates a messy mind. It doesn’t have to be perfect, but it should have order.
Keep your home ready. When someone stops by, you want to welcome them, not scramble.
Allow people to drop by. Not everything needs a phone call first. Back in the day, people just stopped in—if you were home, great, if not, they left. It wasn’t rude, it was friendly. And that’s what we need more of today. Let people feel welcome. Our home is open—just don’t come if you’re sick.
Plant a garden, or at least have some plants. It’s good to get your hands in the soil. There is something grounding and peaceful about it.
Raised gardens are best for outside more on that another day.
What you sow, you will reap. That goes for planting crops, houseplants, and life.
If you sow hate, cruelty, and disrespect, you will get that back—now or eventually. If you sow love, kindness, and respect, that is what will come back to you.
Always look before crossing a street or parking lot. Never assume a car will stop. Look left, right, and left again—and teach your kids the same.
Don’t think there is always time to mend relationships. Tomorrow is not promised.
Honor your mother and your grandmother. They are part of the reason you exist. This matters.
Don’t allow anyone to come between you and your mama , grandmother or your family. If it wasn’t for them you would not exist.
If you have issues with your mother, grow up and work to fix that relationship before it’s too late. Pray about it, and take the first step.
You only get one mama and one daddy. If they are still alive and you don’t know them well, make the effort now.
Ask yourself… are you creating division in your family, or bringing peace?
What you’ve been through may have shaped you, but it does not have to define you. Work through the hurt. Forgive. Rebuild. Don’t stay stuck reliving the past or burying it—heal from it. And don’t judge others. You don’t know what they’ve survived or what it took for them to keep going. Show grace, just as God shows grace to you.
Just because someone else is angry doesn’t mean you have to carry that same anger. Choose peace.
Don’t leave out people you love just because someone else doesn’t want them around. Stand up for what is right.
If someone in your family—boyfriend, spouse, or anyone—is intentionally keeping you from loved ones, from holidays, from connection… recognize it for what it is. That is not right. Set boundaries and stand firm.
Don’t ever let people bad mouth your family. Those are not your friends. And if it’s family keeping you away from family, be a woman and stand up for the ones you love who are being alienated and isolated.
Give to your church. Help your family when they are in need. Help the homeless, the needy, and battered women. Be a blessing where you can.
You don’t always have to shop for yourself. Save your money. Or do something good with it for someone who may need it and won’t ask.
You don’t have to give money to have friends. If that’s what it takes, they are not your friends.
Don’t be fake. You can’t claim happiness or success if you can’t show kindness—especially to your own family. God sees your heart.
And always be a good host. Open your home. Feed people well. Make them feel seen, comfortable, and cared for.
Because being a woman isn’t just about how you look…
It’s about how you carry yourself… and how people feel when they’re around you.
And most importantly… how you reflect God in your life.
Joyful-Echoes 