Month: October 2025

I seen an image on either TikTok or Instagram. It was a black-and-white photo and so I made my twist on it and I love art so when I seen it , I was very moved by it and so below is my version of the photo in color

This image vividly portrays a mother up to her neck in water, yet with unwavering strength, she holds her child high above the surface— some people thought that the woman was swimming out in the lake to drowned herself and her child, but that was not the case ; she was protecting, caring, and fighting to keep her little one safe amid overwhelming circumstances. It’s a powerful reminder that, despite the chaos and challenges we face—be it overwork, poverty, abuse, addiction, illness, or mental health struggles—we do everything we can for our children.

And there’s usually more to the story than what we see or what we think we see

People often don’t understand why women do what they do because they can’t see the full depth of someone’s reality. They assume, “If I were in her shoes, I’d do differently,” but each of us handles our struggles in our own way. As mothers, we do what’s best with the resources, strength, and knowledge we have. For women living in extreme poverty, working multiple jobs might be their only option to provide stability. Those in abusive relationships might shield their children temporarily by placing them with relatives, even though leaving is complicated—sometimes dangerous—because the threat of harm persists if they attempt to escape.

Women battling addiction or mental health issues may feel overwhelmed and unworthy, choosing to make heartbreaking decisions like giving up their children because they believe they’re not enough or fear they might harm them. Women with chronic pain or fighting life-threatening illnesses like cancer simply do their best to keep moving forward, even when exhaustion and suffering threaten to weigh them down.

We must resist judging these women. Instead, we should lift them up, offer grace, and understand that every woman is doing her best in her circumstances.

Sometimes, giving up a child through adoption is an act of profound love and self-sacrifice, not neglect or failure. You may not see the whole story, but that doesn’t mean you should judge.

Every woman faces struggles—whether in youth, education, relationships, addiction, poverty, illness, or mental health. Life is hard, and nobody’s journey is perfect. Our role isn’t to judge or criticize but to support and uplift one another. When wounds are inflicted by others, or if you disagree with how someone navigates their life, remember that everyone is fighting a battle you may never see.

Women have a unique bond. We should celebrate and nurture our relationships—whether between mothers and sons, mothers and daughters, or among friends—striving to understand and forgive, rather than condemn. I speak from experience, having had my own imperfections and regrets. My mother’s love and sacrifices, though not perfect, shaped who I am today. I wish I had appreciated her more when she was here.

If you’re estranged from a loved one, keep praying, keep loving, and trust that time and patience may heal wounds. We weren’t born to be distant or disconnected from our children and loved ones. It’s our responsibility as women to support each other, to build each other up, and to be the refuge in moments of despair.

This is my interpretation of the photo: a testament to resilience, sacrifice, and the unwavering maternal instinct to protect and nurture, even when life feels like it’s dragging us under. Let’s honor each woman’s journey, extend compassion, and band together in sisterhood—because we are stronger when we lift each other up.

Never underestimate the strength of a woman or mother— we love fiercely and do the best we can with what we have. People may not always see the full picture or understand the trials we face, so it’s unfair to judge. Instead, women should lift each other up with kindness and support, offering a hand, not a harsh word. Just because you would handle a situation differently doesn’t mean what I did was wrong, and vice versa. Let’s show each other grace, kindness, and respect, remembering that we’re all doing our best in the moments we’re given.