In the complex tapestry of human relationships, there often lies a struggle between letting people believe in myths and sharing the harsh truth. It’s a delicate balance that many of us face, especially when dealing with individuals whose actions and character have been shrouded in deception or myth. Sometimes, the truth needs to be revealed, even if it’s uncomfortable, to prevent perpetuating falsehoods.
A Personal Journey:
Many of us have faced situations where we’ve grappled with revealing the truth about someone’s character. Take, for example, the story of a past relationship, like the one experienced by the author concerning her first husband. In an attempt to protect her daughter, she initially refrained from speaking ill of him. However, as her daughter grew older, the truth inevitably came to light. The abuse, cruelty, and controlling nature of the ex-husband became apparent.
The Importance of Truth:
In cases where individuals have inflicted harm, abused power, or lived dishonest lives, it’s crucial to acknowledge the truth. The truth may be painful, but it serves as a vital lesson for future generations. It prevents the dangerous myth-making that can occur when we overlook or sugarcoat the actions of those who have done harm.
Balancing Forgiveness and Wisdom:
God indeed encourages forgiveness, but not at the expense of wisdom. It’s possible to forgive without being naive. Acknowledging the truth does not mean stirring up trouble or seeking revenge; it’s about learning from the past to ensure a better future.
Breaking the Myth:
It’s not uncommon for society to elevate certain individuals to sainthood after their passing, even when their actions were far from saintly. This happens in cases involving abusive parents, criminals, or those who have harmed others. It’s essential to break the myth, not out of malice, but out of a responsibility to truth and justice.
Counting Blessings:
Sometimes, not knowing one’s parents or grandparents may be a blessing in disguise. There could be compelling reasons why certain individuals were absent from one’s life. These reasons might include a history of abuse, addiction, or other harmful behaviors.
In the end, we should heed the lessons of our past and the guidance of our faith. While forgiveness is a noble virtue, it should not lead us to turn a blind eye to the truth. Revealing the reality of someone’s character, especially when they have caused harm, can be an act of compassion and a safeguard against perpetuating myths that can harm others. God calls us to be both forgiving and wise, striking a balance that ensures justice and a path toward healing and wholeness.
Joyful-Echoes 