Posted in joyful-echoes, Mental Health, Storytelling

Reconciliation Lost

Once upon a time, in a small town called Willowbrook, there lived a woman named Candy. Candy was a kind-hearted and resilient woman who had faced many challenges throughout her life. She had two children, and like any mother, she wanted to protect them from harm.

But Candy’s story took a dark turn when she found herself married to an abusive man. As the abuse intensified, Candy knew she had to do something to keep her children safe. So, with a heavy heart, she made the difficult decision to leave her husband and take her children with her.

Candy sought refuge with her parents, who lovingly helped raise her children alongside her. However, despite her constant efforts to be there for her children, particularly her daughter, there was an underlying anger that seemed to taint their relationship. Her daughter carried a chip on her shoulder, blaming Candy for the turmoil they had endured in their early years.

As the years went by, Candy longed for a closer bond with her daughter. But every attempt seemed to be met with resistance and hurtful treatment. She often walked on eggshells, fearing her daughter’s explosive anger and harsh words. It pained Candy deeply, as she had always wanted nothing more than to love and support her children unconditionally.

The situation became even more challenging when Candy’s daughter decided to move across the country, leaving Candy desperate to maintain a connection with her grandchildren. Candy, always selfless, donated most of her belongings to those in need, hoping to save money for the move and be closer to her family once again.

However, just as Candy was preparing to make the big move, her daughter’s attitude took a sudden shift. She seemed to have a change of heart and distanced herself from Candy, leaving her feeling devastated and alone. The offer of moving closer to her family had become a cruel illusion, shattering Candy’s hopes and dreams.

She cried and questioned why this was happening to her. It seemed that every turn in her life had brought disappointment and heartache. She started to lose faith in God, wondering why He would allow her to endure such pain and be treated so poorly by her own child.

Despite the turmoil, Candy’s son remained steadfast in his support for her. Even though he was stationed overseas in Germany with the military, he stood by his mother’s side and cut ties with his sister due to her cruelty. He couldn’t understand how someone could treat their own mother in such a manner.

Candy found herself reflecting on the nature of abuse and cruelty. She had tried her best to protect her children from an abusive father, only to witness her daughter exhibit similar behavior towards her. It left her feeling confused and questioning whether abuse was something inherent or learned.

During this challenging time, Candy’s true friends rallied around her, reminding her that she was loved and valued. Her church community offered support and comfort, reminding her that she had a family beyond just blood relations.

As time went on, Candy’s health began to fade. She lived out her remaining years with her son by her side, but her daughter was never made aware of her passing. The opportunity for reconciliation and healing slipped away, leaving a void in both Candy’s heart and the hearts of her grandchildren who never got to know their grandmother.

It was a sad ending to a complex and difficult story. But in its sadness, there was a powerful lesson to be learned. The story serves as a reminder to cherish and love our families, to forgive and let go of past hurts, and to prioritize kindness and empathy over anger and cruelty.

Sadly, in Candy’s case, the opportunity for reconciliation was lost. But for those who hear her story, may it serve as a wakeup call to mend broken relationships, to cherish our loved ones while they are still with us, and to remember the power of forgiveness and love in our lives.

Posted in depression, Hope, Mental Health

Depression and Suicide There is Help and Hope.

Many do not like to talk about things like this but we need it out there so people struggling know they are not alone and there is hope.

Depression is a serious mental health condition that affects millions of people around the world. Although it may seem like there is no way out of the darkness, it is important to remember that suicide is not the answer. Taking one’s own life is a permanent solution to a temporary problem.

If you are struggling with thoughts of suicide, it is important to seek help immediately. There are numerous resources available for those who are in crisis, including hotlines, counseling services, and support groups. Seeking help is a sign of strength, not weakness.

One of the most important things to remember when dealing with depression is that you are not alone. Many people have gone through similar struggles and have come out on the other side stronger and more resilient. By reaching out to others for support, you can begin to heal and find hope once again.

In addition to seeking help from professionals and loved ones, it is important to take care of yourself during this difficult time. This includes getting enough sleep, eating a healthy diet, and engaging in regular exercise. These simple self-care practices can help improve your mood and reduce the symptoms of depression.

Finally, it is important to remember that there is always hope. With the right treatment and support, it is possible to overcome depression and live a fulfilling life. So if you are struggling with thoughts of suicide, know that helpis available and that you do not have to face this alone.

When your depression brings thoughts of suicide get help now.

Suicide is a complex issue that can stem from various factors such as mental illness, societal pressures, addiction and personal struggles. While it is not a mental illness in itself, suicidal behavior is often a symptom or manifestation of underlying mental health disorders such as depression, anxiety, bipolar disorder, and addiction.

Mental illnesses are a serious health concern that requires professional help from trained medical professionals. Seeking help for mental health issues can be challenging due to societal stigmas and the fear of being judged or misunderstood. However, seeking help for mental illness is essential for managing and treating suicidal ideations.

Reaching out for help can be daunting, but there are several resources available for those who need support. These resources include counseling services, support groups, and hotlines that provide confidential assistance and guidance to individuals struggling with suicidal thoughts.

It’s important to remember that seeking help is a sign of strength, not weakness. It takes courage to acknowledge that you need assistance and to take steps towards healing. By taking care of our mental health, we can live fulfilling lives with a sense of purpose and belonging.

  • Psalm 34:17-18: “When the righteous cry for help, the Lord hears and delivers them out of all their troubles. The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit.”
  • Isaiah 41:10: “Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.”
  • Philippians 4:6-7: “Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”
  • Romans 8:28: “And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose.”

These verses are to remind us that God is with us in our struggles and that we can find peace and strength in Him. They also encourage us to seek help through prayer and support from others. If you suffer from depression talk to a professional and if you ever feel suicidal call or text

THE 988 SUICIDE & CRISIS LIFELINE (FORMERLY KNOWN AS THE NATIONAL SUICIDE PREVENTION LIFELINE 1-800-273-TALK) 988LIFELINE.ORG is a registered service mark of the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration.

The 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline is administered by Vibrant Emotional Health. You can text them – text or call to 988.

You can also Text HOME to 741741 to reach a volunteer Crisis Counselor.

We all have something to offer to this world. You matter

Posted in community, Hope, joyful-echoes, Mental Health, Uncategorized

Dark Times vs Living in Darkness

We have all experienced moments in our lives where we feel like we are in the dark. Whether it’s due to ptsd, grief, divorce, mental illness, physical illness, chronic pain, rape, abuse, harassment, problems on top of problems , addiction, job loss, or any other challenge that life throws our way. Sometimes it seems like the universe is out to get us. It isn’t. It will pass and we will move on, it may take some time. But we will push through.

But there is a difference between dark times and living in darkness.

Being in the dark is a temporary state, a momentary feeling that we all experience at some point in our lives. It’s a place of uncertainty, where we are unsure of what the future holds, and we can feel lost and alone.

On the other hand, being stuck in darkness is a much more profound and challenging state. It’s when we feel like we are trapped, hopelessness despair unable to escape the situation we are in because we don’t know how. we are consumed by our pain and sorrow.

Some common signs that someone may be living in darkness and in need of professional help include feelings of hopelessness and despair, loss of interest in activities they once enjoyed, changes in sleeping or eating patterns, difficulty concentrating or making decisions, withdrawing from friends or family, and thoughts of self-harm or suicide. It is important to take these signs seriously and encourage the person to seek help from a mental health professional.

We cannot say oh it’s not that bad. Because we are not in their shoes and how we handle things may be different for others and what works for us may not work for others.

Never be afraid to seek mental health counseling.

The Bible teaches us that we don’t have to be stuck in darkness. In Psalms 23:4, it says, “Even though I walk through the darkest valley, I will fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me.” This verse reminds us that no matter how dark our situation may seem, we are not alone. God is with us every step of the way, guiding us through the darkness and comforting us in times of need.

Another verse that provides comfort during dark times is Isaiah 41:10, which says, “So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.” This verse reminds us that even in the darkest of moments, God is there to strengthen us and provide us with the help we need to get through our struggles.

So my friends, if you find yourself in the dark, know that it’s only temporary. Don’t allow yourself to get stuck in darkness. Instead, turn to God and allow Him to guide you through the darkness and into the light. Remember, God is always with you, and He will never leave you alone. Also it’s ok to reach out to a mental health professional for help and guidance.

Link for help Mental Health Hotline