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Transforming Hurtful Speech: 7 Ways to Choose Intentional Words


We’ve all been there either on the giving or receiving end of hurtful speech. It’s time everybody stops dishing it out. – Those moments when we utter thoughtless words, unknowingly or maybe intentionally causing pain to those we claim to care about.

Careless words can leave a lasting impact on our loved ones. To make amends and foster a more loving and intentional communication style, here are seven powerful strategies to break the habit of speaking without thinking.

  1. Pause and Reflect:
    Before letting words escape your lips, take a moment to pause and reflect. Consider the impact your words may have on the listener. A moment of reflection can prevent unintentional hurt and lead to more meaningful conversations.
  2. Practice Empathy:
    Empathy is the key to speaking intentionally. Put yourself in the other person’s shoes and try to understand their feelings and perspective. This will guide you in choosing words that show care and consideration.
  3. Choose Words of Encouragement:
    Swap hurtful words for words of encouragement. Lift others up with kind and supportive language. Words have the power to inspire, motivate, and bring joy to those around us.
  4. Use the “T.H.I.N.K.” Acronym:
    Before speaking, apply the “T.H.I.N.K.” acronym – Is what you’re about to say True, Helpful, Inspiring, Necessary, and Kind? If not, reconsider your words.
  5. Active Listening:
    Become an active listener. Pay close attention to what others are saying, and respond thoughtfully. This practice will help you build deeper connections and choose your words more wisely.
  6. Seek Forgiveness:
    If you slip up and utter careless words, don’t hesitate to seek forgiveness. Admit your mistake, express genuine remorse, and work on improving your communication. In doing so, you demonstrate the sincerity of your intentions.
  7. Draw Inspiration from the Bible:
    The Bible offers guidance on speaking with intention and love. Here are two verses to inspire you:

a. Proverbs 15:1 (NIV) – “A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” This verse underscores the power of gentleness and how it can diffuse conflicts.

b. Ephesians 4:29 (NIV) – “Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.” This verse emphasizes the importance of speaking words that uplift and benefit those who hear them.


Choosing intentional words over careless ones is a journey toward healthier relationships and personal growth. By practicing these seven strategies and drawing inspiration from the wisdom of the Bible, you can transform your speech into a source of love, understanding, and positivity, leaving a lasting positive impact on those around you.

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