In a world often dominated by self-promotion and the pursuit of personal glory, the concept of humility might seem like a rare gem. Saint Mary Baouardy, also known as Sister Mary of Jesus Crucified, offers a profound insight into the essence of humility with her analogy of the grain of wheat. She likens the proud person to a grain of wheat thrown into water and the humble soul to a grain of wheat buried in the earth. Let’s explore the wisdom of Saint Mary Baouardy’s words and understand why embracing humility can lead to spiritual growth and transformation.
The Proud Grain in Water
Imagine a grain of wheat cast into water. What happens? It swells, it expands, and it becomes bigger. This image is a vivid representation of the prideful individual. Pride, often driven by ego and the desire for recognition, causes a person to inflate their sense of self-importance. They seek validation and admiration from others, constantly craving attention and praise. However, like the grain of wheat in water, this pride can be fragile, vulnerable to external influences and circumstances.
When exposed to the fire of adversity, the proud individual faces a harsh reality. The fire of life’s challenges can be relentless, and in its heat, pride withers away. Just as the grain of wheat in the fire dries up and burns, so does excessive pride result in emotional and spiritual turmoil. It is a brittle facade that cannot withstand the trials of life.
The Humble Grain in Earth
Contrast this with the humble soul, depicted as a grain of wheat buried in the earth. Humility, in Saint Mary Baouardy’s analogy, involves descending, hiding oneself, disappearing, and even dying to the ego. Humble individuals do not seek the spotlight or crave recognition. Instead, they willingly submit themselves to something greater than their own desires and ambitions.
To be like the grain of wheat in the earth means embracing a profound sense of selflessness. It involves recognizing that our true value lies not in our worldly accomplishments or the admiration of others, but in our connection to something divine and transcendent. This humility allows us to surrender our egos, to let go of the need to control every aspect of our lives, and to trust in a higher purpose.
The Revival in Heaven
The most remarkable aspect of Saint Mary Baouardy’s analogy is the promise of revival for the humble soul. While the proud grain in water may swell temporarily and then perish in the fire, the humble grain in the earth undergoes a transformation. It may seem to disappear, but it is in this very process of self-emptying that it finds new life.
In embracing humility, we open ourselves to the possibility of spiritual growth and renewal. Just as the buried grain eventually yields a bountiful harvest, the humble soul, having shed its ego and worldly attachments, experiences a profound connection with the divine. This revival occurs not in the fleeting realm of material success but in the eternal realm of heaven, where the soul finds its true home and purpose.
Saint Mary Baouardy’s analogy of the grain of wheat teaches us a profound lesson about humility and its transformative power. In a world often obsessed with self-promotion and pride, the humble soul stands as a symbol of inner strength and resilience. By letting go of our ego, descending into the depths of humility, and embracing a greater purpose, we open ourselves to spiritual revival and a deeper connection with the divine. Just as the grain of wheat in the earth ultimately yields a rich harvest, the humble soul, in its selflessness, finds its truest fulfillment in the embrace of heaven.
So we know negative Pride is demeaning other people or feeling an aversion to others. Instead of nurturing self-growth, we compete and want to defeat others.
Relationships
Pride will undo a relationship faster than anything else I’ve seen. People will credit their pride for hanging on to grudges well beyond the expiration date. It’s hard to witness sheer stubbornness keeping spouses or families apart. Pride will tell us that the other person doesn’t deserve to be forgiven, or that we could never be in the wrong. Pride will fool us in to believing that we should get whatever we want no matter the price; and that we’re above the rules for everyone else. Jesus tells us to worry about the plank of wood in our own eye before the speck in someone else’s (Matthew 7:3). Pride is the author of hypocrisy that makes equally giving love and respect in relationships impossible.
Peace
When we allow pride to tell us that we’re better than others it will rob all sense of peace. There will always be jealousy and the constant need to compare. ‘Keeping up with the Joneses’ and focusing on appearances will lead only to a chronic state of discontent. This will enrage pride to make us try even harder to do or be more, which is a slippery slope to a whole host of bad decisions. At the end, we won’t be able to feel satisfied or a true sense of accomplishment. That critical inner voice will pop up saying that it still wasn’t good enough. Pride breeds perfectionism, and perfectionism often runs straight to anxiety, (ironically) low self-esteem, and a lack of joy.
Eternity
Those filled with pride don’t always think about their eternity (perhaps because they already feel deserving of one), yet they should because pride is considered an abomination to God. There are many, many examples God gives about bringing the proud low and lifting up the humble (James 4:6). God opposes the proud, which makes those with ongoing pride His adversary. In essence our pride is an attempt to put ourselves on His level and negate the need for grace. It’s impossible for Godly righteousness and pride to coexist. Proud people may do good works, however it’s usually for the sake of their own praise. Pride will stymie true compassion for others as well as genuine repentance for our own sin. In short, pride separates us from God.
“Pride is at the bottom of all great mistakes” (John Ruskin). God warns about pride with all seriousness and we must as well. There is a reason that we cling to it though. Behind pride is often a world of hurt that has been stuffed down and covered with a façade of hubris.
When you accomplish something and feel really good about it, that isn’t pride. It’s delight. Being proud of, or prideful about, your work means that you need everyone to know that you did it. To let everyone else brag about what you may have done you don’t need to because if you’ve really done some thing to help someone they will talk about it.
Joyful-Echoes 